How does a girl deal with the friendliness emanating from her molester? This girl right here has genuinely forgiven the perpetrator but wants nothing to do with the person. But social media has somehow placed them together after some years since the episode, and the perpetrator is trying to be friendly. I try to think that I am naturally friendly, so I don’t treat him any different from others in the group. But it gets pretty annoying when people start matchmaking us.
Thank you for your question. I think it is a good thing you have done by forgiving the person who molested you. Forgiveness is the bible way; and is very important to help you recover from such emotional trauma. However, you are not under any obligation to be his friend. You have already been friendly enough by not bringing charges against him. Sexual abuse is a serious offence, and I do not think that rewarding him with a close friendship will be healthy for you. It may not also be healthy for him. Has he apologized for what he did? When you let him get too close, he might think it’s a normal thing and might attempt to do it to you or someone else again. I think you should give him some space. If he has changed, all well and good but I don’t see what good will come out of a close relationship with him.
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