I want to marry a handsome man, is that wrong?


Good day Laju, I would like to ask what your thoughts are about physical standards in a relationship. Is it wrong for me to want to marry a tall, fair person. Am I being too picky or is it important I consider that also despite the fact that the person is a good Christian.

Hi dear,
Thank you for your question. I think it is important that you marry someone that you are attracted to. I mean, there is a physical aspect of marriage that must not be ignored. I really like the way my husband looks and I guess that’s one of the things that made it easier to say yes to him in the first place. However, that must not be the only thing you are considering. Neither must it be the number one thing. Even if you marry someone you consider to be the most handsome person in the world, his looks will still change. He might have a pot belly ten years down the line, or an accident that disfigures him tomorrow. So on one hand, I would say that attraction is important. But on the other hand, I must emphasize that it is not the most important thing by a long shot. Look first of all for qualities that last; love for God, hardwork, faithfulness, intelligence. Then if the person looks great, that’s wonderful.

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  1. Jyeesmuis January 3, 2017 at 2:03 pm

    Awesome, PL … my hearts prays for you.. more wisdom, more strength… God bless you

  2. Hearts January 4, 2017 at 7:28 pm

    What if the guy is a Christian (I mean a true Christian), has love for God, very intelligent, hardworking and faithful, but not as tall as you would have loved (and you the lady isn’t that tall), do you ignore the aspect of physical height?

    1. Laju Iren January 8, 2017 at 3:34 pm

      Hi Joy, like I said, the choice is yours. For me, height was never really a huge criteria. I knew my I wanted my husband to be taller than me, but the other attributes; spiritual leadership, love, kindness, etc were more important. I wouldn’t advise you to let a good guy go simply because of height, but I don’t want you to feel like you’re just settling. That won’t be fair to him or you.

  3. Chinyere January 11, 2017 at 11:18 pm

    May God continue to bless you ma. Thanks for the post.


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